Everything You Need to Know About How To Motivate a Close Dear Friend Who Feels Down

When your dear friend seems to have just passed a heavy moment in his/her life and you feel the urge to help him/her get him/herself back, what did you do?

Most people would end up doing nothing just because they don’t know what to say or what to do. Isn’t it a pity? There are lots of things you can do, as a friend, as a good friend.

Stop thinking that he/she might feel offended by your suggestion. There is also a big possibility that he/she would be thankful for what you say or do.

What if your friend ends up in a bigger problem just because you don’t do anything? I bet you’d feel guilty.

I’m the kind of person who hate guilty feeling. So, I always try my best to avoid that.

What would I say or do to motivate a friend who is feeling deeply down?

1. Get him/her a motivational book – Whether this friend of mine likes reading or not, I give him/her a book. I pick up from my best collection of motivational books. Sometimes, I get inspired or motivated by books that I read. I believe it will work well with my friend, too.

2. Talk about the future – After he/she is done with the book, now let’s get them to talk. What about? The future. Especially about the promising future. Get him/her to be more positive. Make him/her forget about the failure. Let them see a bright future. That way, they would be motivated to do something for the brighter future.

3. Lead the way – Most people who are deeply down have no idea what to do, how to start, where to begin. You know your friend well. You know what he/she is good in. So, why don’t you help him/her and lead the way. Guide them, if needed.

Remember, friend in need is friend indeed. Now, it might be him/her who needs your help. Next time, you’ll never know.

There are times when you feel like doing nothing. You are totally lack of enthusiasm. You just sit there and do nothing. But, do you know that actually there are dozens of stuff you can do? You might know it. You just need more reasons, more drives to finally move your body and do the rhythm.

You wish that people around you noticed what you are going through. You wish they lent a hand to boost your excitement. But, nobody comes.

Hey, why waiting for them to come to you?

Why don’t you just do it yourself?

Yes, of course you can motivate yourself. There are thousands of inspirations out there. You just need to pay more attention to life.

Here are some sources of inspirations you can use:

There are many thinkers, philosophers whose ideas are spread in many many books that you can buy from your favorite bookstore. Talk about Rousseau, Walt Whitman, and many others. They surely can give you more ideas about life. There are also many great other books famous as the ‘how-to’ books. These types of books can give you dozens of ideas about anything. Just grab one that fits your situation more, get to read it, and apply the tips I your life.

Look around

Have you been paying attention to those homeless people out there? Aren’t you considered very very lucky compared to them? Take a look on how they try to survive—not the way they use, but the enthusiasm—although they have nothing. You have everything. Do you think you have the right to abandon all your blessings by just doing nothing? You can learn and get motivated by anyone. Just never close your eyes to these facts around you.

Look up to your parents

I bet you must have seen them in bad conditions. Life is about ups and downs. Try to remember, what did they do when they were experiencing the downs? They must have done all they might, otherwise, you wouldn’t be here, this lucky, would you?

As I mentioned earlier, there are hundreds of inspirations out there. Just be more absorbent and never close your eyes.